If you’re like most people I know, you want to feel better about yourself.

We’re living in an epidemic of imposter syndrome, where so many people feel like they’re not good enough because that’s the story they’re telling themselves. Have you fallen into this trap?

If so, and you want to feel better about yourself, the solution is to choose to be mindful of the negative self talk and the story you’re telling about yourself that’s not true.

You can change how you feel by changing what you think—because your feelings are not facts. And it’s your choice to decide what to think and what story you tell yourself in any situation.

When you truly acknowledge the present situation, then you have the choice to adjust, problem solve, change, shift or accept whatever is going on in your life.

Choice gives you the ability to feel as if things aren’t just happening to you, that you have control—and this will make you feel less resentful, less put upon and less overwhelmed.

Want to Know How to be Happy? Try These Tips

Do you want to know how to be happy?

The secret is simple: You must choose to be happy – because happiness is a choice. And you’re the only one in charge of your happiness.

Yep, you’re in charge of your happiness. Not your partner, mother, boss or best friend.

Being happy isn’t the absolute sum of how much good or bad happens to you. It’s how you choose to view your life and the things that happen to you. You can read my post about the key skills needed to cultivate more happiness here.

If you’re not feeling happy right […]

5 Powerful Ways to Build Your Self-Confidence

Confidence is a mindset. It’s a skill that can be learned, and one of the ways to build your self-confidence is by practicing it.

Even the most successful people lack confidence sometimes. My executive coaching work often focuses on helping clients boost their self-confidence. They’ve gotten (and kept) their high level positions because they’re extremely competent. But a lack of confidence is what holds them back, not their ability.

It’s easy to get stuck in a rut at work (or in life) when you’re playing small, and not pushing yourself or taking risks because you lack the confidence. Try these […]

Why You’re Feeling Stuck and How To Get Unstuck

Are you feeling stuck?

The experience of stuckness is the perception of limited choices.

If you think your current job is your only option (even though you’ve exceeded your goals every year but haven’t been promoted), I bet you’re feeling stuck.

If you’re only staying with you’re boyfriend because you don’t think you’ll ever meet anyone else, I bet you’re feeling stuck.

No one likes feeling stuck.

But in order to get unstuck, you have to step back and really look at your life. This means assessing the good stuff – like your strengths, abilities and resources. Next comes the not so good […]

A Simple Strategy to Help You Feel Better

How many hundreds of times have the words “I can’t help how I feel!” come out of your mouth?  You probably started saying it as a child, and then grew to believe it as an adult.

But what if I told you that this isn’t true?  What if I told you that you can help how you feel and you can feel better—because your feelings are not facts.

Most of your emotional reactions in life, how you feel about certain situations, are actually dictated by what you think.

Your mind leads and your heart follows.  Sounds counter-intuitive, right?

Consider this example.  You’re […]

Give Yourself Some Love This Valentine’s Day

I was making Valentine’s cards with my 5-year-old son, and as he was counting to make sure there was a card for each kid in the class, he casually said, “Oh wait, I need to make one for myself!”

This got me thinking about how infrequently we stop to offer ourselves love and appreciation. In fact, all too often we do the exact opposite and beat ourselves up and put ourselves down.

So this Valentine’s Day, I suggest you take the sage advice of a child and start giving yourself some love and appreciation on a regular basis. Here are […]

5 Signs You Should See A Therapist

One of the most common questions people ask me when they find out I’m a psychologist is, “How do you know when it’s time to see a therapist?”

We all experience periods of feeling sad, stressed out, anxious or depressed, but these are usually short lived. If you’re experiencing any of the signs below, it’s probably time to seek professional help.

Your mood or emotions are extreme and getting in the way of living the life you want to be living.

A tell tale sign that you might need a mental health diagnosis is when your mood is […]

Spring Cleaning For Your Mind: How To Rid Yourself of Negative Thinking Patterns

After a long, cold winter, now is the perfect time for a rejuvenating spring cleaning. But don’t limit yourself to emptying your closets and scrubbing the kitchen. Your mind needs a good spring cleaning too.

I suggest you start by de-cluttering your mind and cleaning out your negative thinking patterns to boost your emotional health.

When dealing with stress and anxiety, we tend to think in distorted ways and fall into Emotion Mind and the pitfalls of negative thinking patterns—the complete opposite of Wise Mind Living.

I’ve listed eight of the most common […]

The Good, the Bad & the Ugly: The Downside of Change

So how’s your New Year’s resolution going? Have you made it to the gym, quit smoking or stuck to your new diet plan?

If you’re like most people, you’ve already given up on your resolution by now. Am I right?

According to researchers at the University of Scranton, only eight percent of Americans who make New Year’s resolutions achieve their goal. (Read this post on how to make resolutions that last).

Not being realistic about the goals you set is one of the biggest mistakes people […]