It’s a new year and that means you’re probably thinking about making resolutions.
Or you’re wondering how to keep your New Year’s resolutions. 92% of Americans who make resolutions don’t achieve their goals according to researchers at the University of Scranton.
You might want to lose weight or spend less or get organized—all good options if you consider the downside of change first (you can read more about that here).
But I have a Wise Mind Living option that I’d like to suggest.
Take this opportunity to take stock of your life, reflect on what you truly value and then make a choice (and resolution) about how you can live your life with more focus on these values.
All too often we get stuck on the treadmill of life and lose sight of what really matters to us. How often do you find yourself doing what you have to do each day just to get by, while ignoring the things you truly value in life? Balancing the “shoulds” and “wants” of life is critical to mindful living and maintaining a sense that life is meaningful.
Think about what your life would look like if you could organize it by your deepest values and priorities.
You might want to be a spiritual person but haven’t devoted any time to that. Or you might feel very fulfilled in your relationships but unfulfilled in your career. To find out what’s really meaningful to you, review the list below and check off what’s important to you—what you truly value:
Health: getting regular exercise, making healthy food choices, and practicing preventative care
Relationships: having a stable marriage or relationship, having strong friendships, raising healthy children
Career: having a fulfilling career, challenging yourself and learning new skills
Finances: being financially responsible, saving money, and spending wisely
Spirituality: being connected to something larger than yourself
Contributions: helping others, respecting the environment
Self-development: living a life with integrity, confidence, independence, leadership, acceptance, and security
Pleasure: having fun, being spontaneous, feeling excited, being creative, appreciating beauty in the world
Now go back through your list and ask yourself, which areas are you lacking in your life but want more of? Which areas could use some work? And which areas are you doing a good job on?
Once you’ve narrowed down your list, the next step is to pick one category and decide what kind of resolution you can make.
It might take you an entire year to achieve it and that’s okay as long as you set a very specific, easily measurable and realistic goal (you can read more about how to do that here).
Now that you’ve chosen your goal, you need to put together an action plan for ways to live this value more authentically.
If you’ve decided to start volunteering once a month, what are you going to do this week to make that happen? If you’re going to pay off your $3,000 credit card balance by the end of the year, what’s your plan to save more and spend less?
Keeping your New Year’s resolution will have challenges as well as triumphs, and you’ll learn from both.
By making a choice about how you really want your life to be and committing to your goal, you’re one step closer to building a more fulfilling and less stressful life. That’s what I call Wise Mind Living!
Please keep me posted on how you’re doing with your New Year’s resolutions in the comment section below.